Couples Intervention

If your relationship is in trouble it is essential to work actively and conscientiously on the ‘small’ problems before they become ‘major’ problems which may then destroy your relationship. Divorce and separation rates are high and affect an enormous number of people. It is, therefore, vitally important to seek help to rescue your relationship and reconnect with your partner before it is too late.

Couples seeking help regarding their relationship frequently have personal differences, underlying resentments or deeper conflicts driving them apart. Fighting often becomes the most prevalent way of communicating. This, then, often filters through into the bedroom; negatively influencing intimacy and connectedness. Both partners then willingly repeat negative behaviours as these become the epicentre of excitement in an otherwise unfulfilling and barren existence.

If you’re fighting, somehow, serves to clarify issues, solve problems, and bring you closer, then it is constructive. However, most fighting is destructive. This being the case, you need instruction in the art of fighting fairly. Healthy, mutually respectful, constructive communication forms the basis of any happy relationship. This program has been designed to help you to focus on both what is working, and, what is destructive to your relationship. It covers important aspects of your relationship; from better communication to sexual fulfilment.

The relationship program is based on a generic manual that is divided into four phases and the couple will be expected to complete this manual and to work hard on the course material and within their relationship. It is important to prepare yourself to think creatively and to take personal responsibility for your problems. Dr. Robinson’s approach within this program is to counteract blame shifting and this-for-that behaviour and to develop an adult attitude within the relationship. The meetings with Dr. Robinson will be used as reflection sessions where Dr. Robinson will give the couple directive guidance and assistance in addressing the areas within a relationship.

Note that these sessions are not set as venting sessions to shout & scream, but to talk constructively through problems and to be goal orientated & solution focused.


STRUCTURE OF THE COUPLES INTERVENTION PROGRAM:


TERMS AND CONDITIONS RESPECTING COUPLE’S THERAPEUTIC INTERVENTION

I.		The sessions are not mediation sessions however relationship enhancement sessions. Thus the set goal is to work through problems with the end goal to improve the relationship dynamics.
II.		Dr. Robinson will not be used as a go-between or as an alliance for any party and takes in an objective role as facilitator.
III.		Dr. Robinson does not separate the couple within sessions as it is couples therapy and sees it as counterproductive to the process and will only do so if individual pathology is detected or on special request.
IV.		Note the sessions is not venting or blame shifting sessions however educational sessions.
V.		If the couple cannot contain themselves and become abusive towards their partner or towards the doctor, Dr. Robinson will immediately ask the couple to leave the consultation rooms and will reserve the right to make a decision on terminating further session.
VI.		No shouting and screaming will be tolerated.
VII.		Dr. Robinson will not consult via mail or phone to discuss problems as all problems need to be discussed within the set sessions in front of the other party.